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[bakenate]

 I dont post here often. But i do read daily We lost my dad on may 7th 2008 at the age of 39. We arent sure what has really happened as there is a lot of confusion. I should also point out he is not my bio dad. He is my step dad but he raised me and made me the woman i am today. I have two young boys and My parents have two young boys. I need a book to help them understand death and greif. The one the funeral home suggested freddy the leaf didnt sit well with me.

here is his obit so there are no questions I have had issues on a different board http://www.legacy.com/HartfordCourant/DeathNotices.asp

thank you sarah.

[Todd]

I would suggest The Giving Tree the concept may be a little tough for them to get at first but they will figure it out

[RacheyBachey]

Do you have acess to the public library in your area?

Thinking of you and your family, Rachel.

[Todd]

http://www.amazon.com/Gentle-Children-Dealing-Grief-Death/lm/KC8JRF33CG21

this link may help you in finding a book they have a few on just grandparents dying too I know how hard this is I lots my grandfather when I was 14 I was severly depressed for months it eventually got better though as I'm sure it will with your kids

[bill door]

Sarah, I'm so sorry to hear of this. I'm sure that whatever things may have happened on another board will not happen here.

A book is a fine thing and will have ways of expressing things that may not have occurred to you. In my limited experience, talking and listening and being honest are helpful ways forward.

Here are a few links that may be of some use to you-
http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/feelings/death.html
really long link..
http://iul.com/raindrop/
http://www.nncc.org/Guidance/understand.death.html

Best wishes to you and your family.
Colin

[Jude]

Sarah I'm very sorry for your loss hon.   39 is so young too.   I can't give suggestions that are any better than Colins,  those links look really good.

Please know that you and your family are in my prayers.

Ma

[nutsy fagin]

 So sorry for your loss, Sarah.  It is so hard in the begining, it does ease up but never really goes away.  He'll always be right there, tucked away in your heart. The links Colin gave seem to be really good, Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. God Bless

[bakenate]

thank you guys. I am going to look into those links.

[spedteacher]

Sarah, so sorry for your loss!

I think one of the best ways to help children deal with grief is lots of talk of the one who passed.  Many families think its best to shut away conversations about Grandpa, etc.  They try to cover the grief with busy-ness and distractions.  Going to the cemetery on Memorial day with flowers, spending time makint a memorial photo album or just talking of all the fun times you shared with the loved one is helpful in the grief process.  As a teacher, I think a book about grandpa with special memories record for/by the children would be a great "tangible" way to express grief.

I also think it's good to give each child (if they are old enough to comprehend this) something that belonged to the grand parent.  My son has items that belonged to his grandparents who have passed and they are dear to him.

[Kitten7]

Sarah
I just saw this thread. I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad last year and the pain hasn't gone away.
I agree with the others..talking is the best thing to do for all involved. I wish I could remember the name of the book for young children dealing with grief; if the title comes to me, I'll post it.
We're thinking of you and your family.

[minktail]

 i'm so sorry for the passing of your dad. is there a hospice in your area?  they were wonderful when my mil passed.
caring thoughts going to you & your family at this time.
-mink-

[bakenate]

one of my home health care cleints recieves hospice care. i talked with her nurse today. she is sending me information.