I was so confused I was thinking my friend is a Pedo and molest lil kids.
He opened my eyes to a new world. i aksed PJ on there message forum what they think of boylovers, they said they are nothing but pedophiles.
and they cant be more wrong. dont get me wrong here im sure there is some pedos who hide behind the name "boylover" but there are those who truly care for kids.
My sister 'cares for kids'. She has been in the child mental health field most of her life until she went back to college. She isn't a boylover, girllover or anyting else. She loves to help kids. She doesn't love
them, nor does she need to identify with others who share this love.
During a Michael Jackson case a few years ago I went to the boylover sites. that is one of the things that brought me to PeeJ. One only need to google Boylover and go to the first website on the list. It claims to be there for support yet has a picture of a young boy running in the water naked, his leg just barely covering his genitals. This is the main support board for BLers. IYeah, they really just care about kids. This is the same site that will not allow porn trading or mention of sex acts. You will see many members use the word AOA though (age of attraction). Yeah, it isn't sexual. The majority of avatars on the website are young good looking male children. If you go "the store" newbies can pick young boys for their avatar. Or graphics that have the "support" website logo with a picture of a young boy, perhaps age ten, in a sexual pose or naked until the picture cuts off at his navel. But hey, its just support.
And of course there is the slogan banner they offer for free download "Sex is good, Abuse is bad". But yeah, no sex on that board, its all support.
Here is a quote from 'about BL.net'
The English language term 'boylove' was coined in the last few decades, because in some western societies the technical terminology for this form of orientation or attraction has become vilified in the public mind.
The original technical words are Greek -- 'pedofilia' (paedophilia) refers to the emotional and affectionate love of youngsters, while 'pederasty' refers to the physical love. In certain societies these words have become so negative in their emotive connotations that true pedofiles and pederasts have preferred to call themselves boylovers as a way of distinguishing their orientation from those who abuse children.
The mixed Greek-Latin term 'pedosexual' is more clinical, does not carry so much emotive baggage, and clearly indicates a sexual orientation in the same way that the words 'heterosexual' and 'homosexual' do. Some boylovers use this term to describe themselves. It pays to bear in mind that these words are names for a sexual orientation, and not descriptions of a person's active life -- someone may be heterosexual but celibate. For obvious reasons, in societies where they are misunderstood, that is often the case with pedosexual people.
Yeah, I'd agree with BL here, it is a sexual orientation to children.
According to freespirits, which is the second largest support site for BL
How do boylovers feel about child molestation?
Free Spirits doesn't have official positions because we only exist to provide web sites and foster communication. There is an ethical consensus among the BoyChat community and the keepers of the sites, however, that all forms of non-voluntary sexual contact are to be condemned...Discussions on BoyChat delve deeply into ethical issues. No regular reader could fail to be aware of the ethical issues of his attraction. Victims of sexual abuse find not only support and caring, but also strong condemnation of their abusers. Posters who contemplate anything abusive get very short shrift from the rest.
Participants are also very aware of the legal issues. They understand the extreme penalties for even the slightest physical contact or suspicion of sexual contact between adult and minor. They know about the knock on the door in the middle of the night, the removal of and destruction of property, the planting of evidence and the extraordinary mental and sometimes physical torture of possible victims. They know that boys, even if not already victims, will become so at the hands of the police in the name of child protection. Readers are aware of the bashings and rapes in prison; the informing of neighbours and employers and the sign in the yard, the modern Scarlet Letter. They are aware also of the enforced "therapy" that consists mainly of destroying the offender's sense of self worth with no chance of actually changing sexual orientation.
But yeah, its not about sex, BL really just love boys.
Another site that has info from BL'ers POV is http://www.prevent-abuse-now.com/pedoweb2.htmSince this is not a boylover site I felt okay to leave the link intact, it is yucky but SFW. Admin-- feel free to take it out.
I have left the other links out for obvious reasons, don't want anyone to get in trouble by clicking on them. You can google them if you wish easily by the info I gave out.