I always thought of making a document on the computer and informing my mother about it- there for her to read on my wishes on what would happen if I were to suddenly die... who gets what belongings, who I don't want at my funeral, that I do not want a religious ceremony or burial, and how to inform my internet friends. Was gonna write a list, but a computer document makes me able to change and update it whenever need be. Yeah, I think I'll do that.
I did this almost a year ago.
Just in case.
Jake has the password and has read it. He was cool with it and my wishes.
After Hurricane Katrina and even before that Hurricane Dennis in 1999 I decided on cremation, the thought of a flood hitting and graves coming up out of the ground... omg insane! Imagine that?
My parents ashes are going out to the family farm once my mom dies. I asked that myne are tossed in the water. My kids thought that was cool.
When I went for my second heart surgery when I was 28 I wrote my kids birthday cards, graduation cards, wedding cards... I warned them I would haunt them in reality or through cards. I also had lists of places I would have liked them to see that I had seen in my life, places I thought that they would like and little notes on what kind of life I wanted them to lead. Each kid had a boot sized shoe box with cards and notes and favorite photos from that year until their 21st birthday. Just in case. Sounds crazy doesn't it? I was not supposed to make it off the table... now I am 33 my heart is better than ever though! As of this month I am able to ride my bike 20 miles easily... so I am a hell of a lot better (still smoking though and increased white blood cell count)
It is a morbid thought but, a necessary evil in life to talk about what will happen when you are dead or knocking on deaths door. I have said to the kids 1000 times that the soap business is theirs to share and they can make it work if they work together, they know the house is theirs to share and that they have to take care of Tyler until the time comes for him to go into a home. Jake has said that won't happen but, the reality is it will. They know what to look for and what to do when that time comes. Bill's major concern was "Who will coook if you aren't here?" and "How will I get to school if you aren't here?" Ya I am the limo driver and personal chef lmao.